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Snapshot 2: Evil v. Good

We hired our gardener Beleke* because of his story.
(Well, we needed one too.)
Tropical weeds grow fast. 
Everywhere.

Last year, just as Beleke was beginning his seminary studies,
his sending church was attacked in a far away village by the LRA.
I do not know the extent of the evil inflicted there.
I’m not sure I could stomach it.
Suddenly, his scholarship/support disappeared into thin air.
His six children had to drop their studies.
He eventually had to drop his studies.
His passion became to work enough odd jobs to save up enough that they could all attend school again next year.
He has a pastor’s heart for his people.
And they suffer.
Far away.

Here he tends and hoes and hums a happy tune.
Weeds and tills with a smile.
He gently brings forth life out of our sticky red clay.
We have an abundant garden full of produce and spices in his care.
Sometimes he works a night shift across town and then comes over to water seeds in the morning hours.
He deftly uses these garden tools to bring life.

In a village far away others use them to bring death.
And a verse runs through my mind…
“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
Romans 12:21 (ESV)
*Name has been changed.

Snapshot 1: Power

For more than three years we have lived in this fascinating place. And so many times a camera just doesn’t capture it all. I will often treasure significant moments in my heart, but not have a way to ‘keep’ them outside of memory itself. So I hope to ‘keep’ them here as ‘Snapshots’. Words to describe meaningful bits of our experiences here in Congo.

So Snapshot 1: Power –

I join 40 Congolese women in a mud hut behind our church to pray.
Their colorful clothes shine in the glimmers of morning sunlight streaming in through the eaves.
Their prayers are full of conviction and thanksgiving.
These women have carried heavy loads.
The burden of trying to survive war.
Trying to keep a large family safe, healthy and fed. In war.
They balance all this gracefully like a huge clay pot on their heads.
They cry out to their Lord for mercy and strength.
With thanksgiving.

Then a deafening noise overhead.

A huge UN Peacekeeping helicopter flies directly over our hut.
It is 500 ft above us, temporarily drowning out the words.
A white behemoth cutting through blue sky to keep ‘peace’.
In a show of the strength and control man can have.
It is big enough to carry a dump truck.
It swallows up thousands of gallons of fuel. And dollars.
It can carry very heavy loads.
Ungracefully.

And the question occurs to me:

Who has more power here?

Rats & Bats & ZZZs

Rodentia.
Okay, according to wikipedia bats aren’t rodents. But rats and bats sure seem to be in the same family to me. We’ll climb the family tree and call them all mammals.

Bats live in our attic, correction, bats live in almost every attic here. They scamper about the midnight skies eating delicious mosquitoes all night. This would work well if it weren’t for two facts:

1) The mosquitoes ate us first at dusk.
and
2) They can be clumsy getting out of bed (and therefore flop all over my ceilings).

There have only been 2-3 times where they got into the house, (WALKED ACROSS THE FLOOR! – I really didn’t want to know they could walk in a sneaky little rodentia way), and other than noise we have coexisted quite happily for over 3 years.

Then there’s rats.
Rats are worse because they don’t eat bugs, they eat your food.
And the labels on your canned goods.
And the tinfoil you were saving for art projects.
And the dog food.
And your clean clothes.
And the Diet Coke.
And the fruit juice you thought was in fool proof containers.
And the wire screens covering your windows.
And the bars of laundry soap for next week.
And the Tupperware you thought was rat-proof.
Insert just about anything….
Those big little teeth?
They can chew it!

We have been trying to evict Famille Rat from our back porch this week. My bed is next door. Did you know that rats can screech? I didn’t. Well they can. I imagine the rats from Ratatouille whistling the signal to their 200 cousins to rush to a new food source. Maybe it’s code.

In the middle of the night the mosquitoes hum in my ear (after sneaking under the net somehow), while the bats flap on the ceiling overhead, while the rat screeches out directions to the best snack on the porch. Add a mosque next door, overnight worship service down the street, and the occasional thunder and lightning, and you have  yourself a hellish midnight orchestra. All these noises align every 50 nights or so to prevent rest of any kind.

No ZZZs for me!
Thankfully, the other 49 nights keep me going.

Trauma Healing

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Much of this footage is from our hometown here – if you want a peek. Our group is involved in translating, checking, publishing and training local church leaders with tools they can use to address the severe wounds of trauma. It is a privilege to play a tiny part in equipping others to work toward healing.

Extra jog

It was going to be a lazy Friday afternoon of leisurely sewing and listening to the boys play outside with their favorite friend. Until the extra jog.

I had just finished a 3-mile workout with our wonderful homeschool helper Katie, we did our 3-miles and were cooling down for the final stretch (in both senses of the word) when I heard panicked screams from the backyard.

Visions of broken limbs ran through my head and I ran out to investigate, only to find that the situation was potentially worse than that. You see, we have versed the kids in the dangers of rabies. It is alive and well here, remember this? The last time a stray dog got under our fence we locked the kids in the house while Kent went out in boots, coats and forced it to leave with rocks and sticks. Now, in the middle of the afternoon with 4 kids outside in shorts we had another stray in our yard.

So I ran for a long-sleeved coat and ran back outside to get the kids to safety and the dog away from our other dogs. Even those who are vaccinated can eventually die of rabies if badly bitten. The vaccine only slows down the virus. I finally spotted the dog, it was a young mangy little thing that wiggled under the front gate, who was thankfully scared off at the first rock. No signs of rabies, but good adrenaline boost anyway.

We got a little extra jog after our 3-miles. A few minutes later the kids are back to playing and all is assuredly well. A little extra jogging never hurt. I love so many things about life here in Congo, but I will admit that it involves more adrenaline than life in other places.

Lumiere

I have begun this post several times, and no words feel sufficient enough to convey the wonder of the privilege I’ve had the past 3 months to be in our local church choir. To put things into words feels like it will minimize a wondrous reality. I fear giving you anything less than reverence for these sisters. Their friendship is so much sweeter than candy and more precious than gold. I have been torn between wanting to post tons of videos and pictures and wanting to tuck it all safely away to savor for myself. I will attempt to find middle ground. We could learn a lot from them.

One of the first reasons I loved Africa was for her music. The rich harmonies, rhythms melt my heart on the coldest of days. The youth and Sunday school choirs usually sing in the French service we attend, but last Christmas the Mama’s choir, La Lumiere (‘the light’), came to sing in the French service for a change. They did so well and looked like they were having so much fun, I felt compelled to beg them to let me sing along – even just once.

They welcomed me, so I began attending rehearsals every other morning bright and early, feverishly scribbling down words I didn’t fully understand. It took about 2 weeks before I felt ready to try dancing along and another one before I performed with them. Anna tells me often how ‘good we sing’ and loves to watch.

Here is a screenshot from the video of my ‘debut’:

No more  shoes with heels for me!

(Sylvie had to give me serious scarf-tying assistance. 
My slippery hair kept rebelling.)
Several performances later in various churches around town, I can understand a WHOLE lot more of what is going on. This is the best language practice ever!  Every time I enter the grounds for a rehearsal I feel keenly that I am on holy ground. Here we practice a tough song about the futility of worldly ways (I’m not laughing at the song, only at my own foibles):

These women are some of my favorite people on the planet.
The community they share is phenomenal to me.
A sisterhood like none I have ever imagined.
They visit the sick.
They give to those in need.
They share.
And share some more.
They serve others.
They laugh.
They dance.
They sing.
They truly are a Light in this dark place.
I know they have been a Light to me, even a clumsy mouse in the corner.

Guess I can’t call myself a ‘mouse’… giraffe?

Randomess

I meant to title this ‘random-ness’ but mistyped ‘randomess’, and our life is messy, so I’m keeping it. Life in the raw and real with all the messy parts is life ready for redemption.

The kids have just finished their homeschool assignments for today and are making quick work of a craft project involving lots of cutting and pasting bits of paper. These bits seem to have magnetic attraction to our carpet and few of them obey the glue and stay on the page. The laughter and fellowship between Joel and Anna curled up over bits of paper on the carpet makes me at least temporarily blinded to the mess. It also makes me want to stop time or videotape everything.

I have joined the ‘mama’ choir at our local church, and each time I meet with them to sing, pray and praise God I am astounded by their courage, strength and perseverance. It was very humbling this morning to sing the equivalent of a prayer: ‘Jesus take me by the hand’ while holding hands with Congolese sisters who have been widowed in their 20s with three kids to support, or who have 7 kids to feed and school each day and still manage to care for 3 others. I feel honored just to know them. I think they’ve given up on trying to say ‘Kimberly’ and dubbed me ‘Mama Anna’ which is fine by me. I like it better than ‘Madame Kent’ anyway.

After 9 months of life without sugar and flour, Kent has finally PERFECTED the best pancakes in the world. He’s trained the boys well how to flip the pancakes and the boys are in charge every Friday morning to give Mom a break. It’s fun. I’m serious though, these pancakes are better than any I have eaten for years, flour or no flour!

Other random facts:
We haven’t had running water come in from the city for about 10 days, and it is not likely to come for several more. The city water pipes are being replaced on our street. Experimenting with buckets of cloudy rainwater for just about everything…

Our kids don’t remember much about living in France as babies, but two things stuck with us: a love for trains and the call to eat “A table!” I can call that out from anywhere in the house and they will come running from across the compound. Such a useful little phrase…

Lightning destroyed one of our battery chargers 2 weeks ago, so we’ve been low on power for the first time in a few months. You know those little glass fuses? Well, it wasn’t black. It wasn’t cracked. It was exploded. Tiny. glass. pieces. A replacement is on back order from another country for the foreseeable future…

We are blessed immensely that a lovely mission-minded young lady will come and help out in our homeschool for 2 months! So exciting!

I’ve been doing this for years and I’m still not great at wearing head scarves. Tying them in various ways is no trouble, but keeping them on so they don’t slip? Notsomuch. Sunday, my friend Sylvie was helping me out. She’s new to foreigner’s slippery hair. She said, ‘Your hair is just not habitue [accustomed] yet to the scarf.’ The thought that my hair will just decide to be sticky one day on its own makes me smile.

Source

It’s a French word, you know: source. We borrowed it.

Here it can mean the ‘well’ or ‘spring’ that drinking water is drawn from. Even if local folks have city water pipes (they provide brown water about 50-60% of the time), they often continue to haul water for drinking/cooking from a more trustworthy source.

This month the preaching roster at our Congolese church has been focused on provision. Last week was about God’s provision of manna in the desert. Kent was asked to preach today on Exodus 17 and the provision of water to the people. As he was preparing his sermon in between linguistics sessions, deadly cholera was making it’s way into town.

Apparently, there was a cholera epidemic here in the 1970’s that killed tens of thousands of people. Entire families disappeared. It is not a small thing that cholera is ‘back in town’. People have been tracking it through different locations for some time, and it has now arrived. This morning sandwiched in between announcements about the youth mission trip and choir leader’s meetings, there was also a page-long infomercial about hand-washing, vegetable preparation and other ways to avoid cholera. Seems we just got through the pervasive ‘un-ease’ about elections and now this?

It was the perfect time, as it turns out, to think about the ‘Source de vie’ we have in Jesus. Moses struck the rock and the people had the water to live. Not just any dirty water. Pure water. Life-giving water. They got life. Paul later explains that Jesus is that Rock. He is struck. We get life. For something that pure, we have to go to the Source.

Muck & Mire

The fun ‘feet’ blog picture we’ve been using as a header has bothered me for a few reasons. Don’t get me wrong – it’s cute and fun, but it was taken during a lovely vacation at the beach in Kenya. And while, I like to look at it and remember our lovely vacation at the beach, our life here in Africa does not boil down to a vacation on the beach.

And it’s not in Kenya.

Let’s just be abundantly clear, life in Congo is grimy, dirty and full of bugly realities (as many of you notice on facebook). I had to remind the boys to wash their hands this morning before breakfast because they had been touching an almost-dead rodent. When we wash these feet, the tub turns brown with dust and mud for a moment. Life is messy.

Everyday.

In every way.

Life is messy anywhere in the world because of humanity. People hurt each other. Lies. Hypocrisy. Selfish gain. Vain conceit. Here we add to those mud, bugs and life without vacuums or wipes. Messiness of another layer. Speaking of layers, most people here put curtains over their bookshelves because the dust accumulates so pervasively that a book can be ruined without ever being used. I store our future school books inside two XXL Ziplocs in a sealed plastic trunk.

Convinced?

What better blog header than mud?

Mucky reality.

And a pineapple in our backyard.

And a friend’s brightly colored skirt.

There are gorgeous things that come out of the mire!

Remembering 2011

I didn’t take this time of holding the ebenezer, remembering the year as He laid it before us, last year – we were savoring a visit with family in the US… Sad that the last backward glance at a year of living and loving was here in 2010. Two years later, our life here is SO different!

But how to quantify that?

What was 2011?

If I had to choose one word, I would have to say 2011 was a monumental year for Kent, this work and our family.

The year language development work exploded here in Bunia with 10 different language communities.

The year Kent became a Linguistics Consultant and helped teach a graduate-level tone course.

A year of long-sought-after solutions for our son’s health.

The year we entered Autismland, and found our way.

Another year of taking homeschool ‘on the road’, moving, packing, settling and moving again.

The year I learned to quilt!

The year Joel finally lost a tooth (actually 5 teeth are now missing at once!)

The year we dared to go 100% grain-free.

The year Kent started commuting on a motorcycle.

The first year we really grew our own food.

The year we finally understood our sweet James and watched him come out of the fog.

The year we finished renovating our tiny kitchen.

The year our living room doubled as a ballet studio.

Another year to enjoy this beautiful, bug-filled country (only 1 bat, 4 grasshoppers, several crickets/cockroaches and several hundred ants and mosquitoes made their way into our house this year – much fewer than previous years!)

The year we had to learn how to cook and eat all over again.

The first year of my life that I crossed food allergies OFF my list!

The year Joel became a great reader.

The year everyone began learning piano, French and Latin in earnest.

The year Anna started and aced kindergarten math.

The year we grew close to Congolese friends.

The kind of friends who make you want to sit on stools around the cooking fire all evening ‘chewing the news’ as they say in Maasailand.

A year to taste and see that the Lord is good.

2011

A year of paperclips on our paper timelines.

Monumental.

A year mixed of storms and clear skies.

A year rooted in His steadfast love.

A year to hold fast to faith in Him who works all things for good.

A year that could have broken us,

but strengthened us instead.